• Vikki

Imposter Syndrome - You are not a fraud!


IMPOSTER SYNDROME


EVERY PERSON starting out and already in business suffers from imposter syndrome and that's okay as long as you know you're not the only one feeling it!


Although when we think about it logically we know that we are qualified, experienced and knowledgeable to be in the business we are….THAT’S WHY WE STARTED THE BUSINESS!

Our minds always look for doubt though, you might know that you are more than capable but then your brain says to you “Well are you really? You know you could do with a bit more training, or do you really know what you're talking about, people are going to find out you're a fraud - Or even worse what if it doesn’t work and you look like a fool or you’re making a big mistake then what!


That feeling of NOT BEING ENOUGH kicks in and then if you go down that rabbit hole before you know it you’ve talked yourself out of the amazing business idea you have because you’ve convinced yourself you’re not good enough or experienced enough to do it even though YOU ARE.


Everyone at all levels feels like this and it’s one of the biggest blocks for business owners!


It is the quickest way of turning something that can be straight forward and simple in our business into a complicated mess that we spend hours going over, picking holes in and over complicating because we are doubting ourselves and our talents.


Our brains are designed to keep us safe and going into business and putting yourself out there is a risk so your brain will come up with all sorts of reasons why you shouldn’t be doing it and why you should stay “safe” where you are.


This is FEAR talking. If you google imposter syndrome Wikipedia* comes up saying: "Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon, impostorism, fraud syndrome or the impostor experience) is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their skills, talents, or accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud".[1] Despite external evidence of their competence, those experiencing this phenomenon remain convinced that they are frauds and do not deserve all they have achieved.. "


Feeling like you’re not good enough to solve the problems for your customers that you know you will solve is an unpleasant emotion and the more we think about it the more dangerous and painful it can feel. Turning that feeling on it's head - you might be the best in your field and your customers benefit hugely from working with you so by listening to that fear gremlin you are doing a dis-service to your customers.


I know this is easy for me to say but to get over this feeling we need to step out of our comfort zone and do it anyway!


I used to (well still do to an extent) have a fear of being on camera. It’s uncomfortable for me videoing myself and seeing myself on camera (I’m my own worst judge and I pick up on things that people that have watched my videos never would have even noticed if I hadn’t pointed it out), for years this stopped me from really going for it in my business as I needed to be able to talk to people on camera, I need to be able to video myself for the courses that I offer and the workshops I hold. It took a lot of uncomfortable action for me to just DO IT anyway. Ok, I might take 100 shots of a video until I’m happy with it when I’m recording my courses and if I’m live I don’t have my face on my screen I have the faces of the people I’m working with so it’s a more “natural” setting but when I set myself a goal to do that video or online workshop I now get it done. Even as close as a year ago I would have procrastinated about it and listened to the fear talking, all that did was take up space in my brain that I could have been using to focus on better things and it held me back from what I’m passionate about and what makes me happy!


What are you holding yourself back from by listening to that fear? If you took the uncomfortable action and did it anyway where would you be in a years time?


I read a story and I can’t remember where I read it as I would recommend the book. The basis of the story was about being able to accept our mistakes and not turn them into big things. There was a speaker that had done a speech on stage and afterwards one of the audience came up to him and said that he had made a grammatical error in his speech. The speaker said to that audience member, I think you’ll find I probably made about 40 grammatical errors but who’s counting!


He could have taken what that audience member said to heart, focused on it, turned it into a huge thing in his head because he made a mistake and worse case never spoke again. We are all humans and we all make mistakes sometimes it is how we learn and grow and what makes us human.


I have a sign on my vision board that says “Allow yourself to be a beginner, no one starts off being excellent”. I love that saying because no matter how experienced, talented, knowledgeable we are having that mindset that it’s ok to be a beginner and when we make a mistake to own it, fix it, learn and grow from it and move on…no drama takes all of the pressure off ourselves.


To progress and get over this feeling we need to take that step out of our comfort zone and DO IT ANYWAY! Nothing exciting will come of staying in our comfort zone, you will never achieve the success you want without taking that uncomfortable action and when you’re in your last days looking back do you want to be saying well I WISH I had taken a leap of faith and done it anyway even if it was slightly uncomfortable at first or do you want to be saying I DID IT, I SMASHED IT AND WHAT A MIND BLOWING LIFE I LED FROM GETTING OUT OF MY OWN WAY?!





Which one do you choose?


*https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome

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